My Unresolutions for the New Year

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Resolutions, ME?

Yes, I have to admit that in the past I was always reluctant to set New Year’s resolutions. In fact, I still am. But today I am thinking about what may be worthwhile to change as I go into this new year.

Being an over-doer and over-thinker, I hate setting goals that feel like more pressure. I already place too many expectations on myself and the thought of more pushing can overwhelm me.

But I am thinking that I can set some “un”resolution goals. This could be a good thing for me; a “restore-myself-to-sanity” thing and guess what- my word of the year just happens to be (drum roll please) – Sanity.

So here we go. I’m officially offering up my unresolution goals in the hopes you over-doers out there will join me.

1. I resolve to unhook myself from negative thought. As soon as my mind starts on the “you’re not doing enough, blah blah blah” I resolve to kick it to the curb and look at myself realistically. Am I really doing enough? If the answer is yes, well then, Good Enough is really Good Enough.

2. I resolve to un-counch-potato myself and get the heck to the gym. Yes, I’m signing up for a swim class and not making excuses about why I don’t like to exercise. Enough already- just do it!

3. I resolve to undo my own guilt trips about food. I noticed recently how much grief I give myself about any sweet treats and honestly, I’m tired of my own berating. If I want a cookie (provided I haven’t eaten ten of them already), I’m having it without guilt. If I work on loving my body for what it is (a beautiful thing!), the chances are I will make better choices anyway. (This may not always apply at Sunday’s donut fest after church services. 😉 )

4. I resolve to uncontrol my life more and give the big issues to the Universe. Honestly God does a much better job of figuring things out vs. my struggling and struggling.

5. I resolve to unleash my mind and let it live in the moment. I want to live more freely, more spontaneously, more enjoyably. I don’t need to plan as much, just go with the flow and enjoy what comes my way.

I’m smiling just looking at this list. I think I’ll print it out and hang it somewhere.

Will you join me? If you create an unresolution list, comment below and share a couple.

Happy New Year!

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13 thoughts on “My Unresolutions for the New Year

  1. Cathy McElhaney

    Well, I think I am just going to try to be the best ‘me’ I can be.
    I am going to take better control over my diabetes and maybe kick it to the curb! (Would LOVE to do that!)
    I am going to do my Pilates…for ME because I enjoy it.
    I am going to get something changed in the laws for Kinship Foster families.
    I am going to collaborate on a book directed at supporting grandparents raising grand children due to addiction.
    That’s it for now! LOL!
    Happy New Year Joanne! And Jim, too!

    1. Joanne Cain Post author

      Wow, that’s ALOT!! I love your ME goals. I know we can accomplish anything we set our minds to. I hope to put myself first this year. 🙂
      xoxo Joanne

  2. Cindy

    Happy New Year….I loved reading this! A little different perspective on achieving “serenity”…no pressure! I think you just about covered it all here! Awesome….

      1. Cindy

        I really believe as we get older (speaking for myself haha, Iam pushing 71), we come to that realization, that indeed, we have pushed for a lifetime. Maybe instead of old age, it is just called being tired. Anyway, as mothers, wives, grandmothers, & daughters, that’s what we do best because we love so much!

  3. Marianne

    PRAISES BE! I’m with you, Joanne…all the way. I also resolve to give the small issues to God, too. His answers are most likely less complicated than mine and more easily achieved 🙂

    I toast you to a new year and dusting off some old, yet very smart un-resolutions 😀

    Blessings to you, my friend,
    Marianne xo

    1. Joanne Cain Post author

      I am ready for some peace and quiet- in my mind Marianne. I’m really going to work on it. Thank you for your blessings; I’m always thankful for your friendship.
      Blessings to you too!

  4. Marylin Warner

    Well done, Joanne! I worded #4 differently, but it’s the same resolution at heart. My husband says I have a “worry void” I need to keep filled, so when one worry passes I find another. This is the year I’m going to “Let Go and Let God” handle my worries. As for the donuts after church services, I’d have to duck out a back door to give those up, and I would miss the chance to talk to people. Or at least that’s my story, and I’m sticking to it! 😉
    Happy New Year, dear Joanne!

    1. Joanne Cain Post author

      Happy New Year Marylin! I have a “worry void” too (such a good name for it) but over the years, I try not to focus on what I can’t change. That helps somewhat with my worry. I can only change myself and not others- that is the hardest lesson to learn I think.
      I like your idea of ducking out after church but my mother is involved and that is quite the social time for her. Sometimes I take a healthy fruit bar in my purse (when I’ve really got my willpower up) and I eat that instead.
      Blessings dear Marylin!

  5. Sunday's Child (trying to be full of grace).

    GLORY BEE! I adore your thoughts.
    This year, I have chosen the word, Mercy for me.
    I am giving myself grace everyday to be me.
    I adore that we are on the same page.
    I love that you said, you were unhooking yourself from negative thought.

    You are a lovely, lovely friend. I love that you are bathing yourself in grace and goodness in the year ahead.

    You are so worth it.

    In this together, it will be a snap. All of us working together.


    simply perfect.

    just like you.

    Happy New Year!

    Hugs, D


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