Sunrise, Sunset

Sunrise over Sewickley, PA.
Sunrise from Sewickley Bridge, PA.

Sunrise, sunset
Sunrise, sunset
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another
Laden with happiness and tears

Lyrics from Sunrise, Sunset- Fiddler on the Roof

It’s hard to believe that next month I will be 58 years old. I kind of like that I can say I am pushing 60. Years ago, I thought I would be young forever. When I hit 30, I was excited about that landmark. When I turned 40, it was a bit different. I felt like I really began to feel my age. No wonder people buy red sports cars at that age.

Mom and her daughters- Photo by Karen Long Kern. (LtoR) My sister Mary, sister Cally, Mom, Me
Mom and her daughters- Photo by Karen Long Kern. (LtoR) My sister Mary, sister Cally, Mom, Me

My mom has set the example for me of accepting her age but staying young at heart. She stopped dyeing her hair in her mid – 50’s. She prefers to be around young people rather than join senior types of activities. She is really a trooper and her positive attitude about life continues to inspire and motivate me.

What I’ve noticed about this era is that I can’t do everything I used to do. I get tired. I have the desire to keep going but my mind and body can not always keep up. It’s been a difficult choice to slow down a bit lately. And there’s some things that this age has brought about for me that I’m truly grateful for.

Siesta Key Sunset

Don’t sweat the small stuff. I am losing friends these days to cancer and sudden death. It really puts things into perspective. What is really important? It’s not the latest handbag or hashtag. It’s all about family and friends.

Money is irrelevant. Yes you need money to pay the bills. Do I need the latest wardrobe or fancy shoes? No, I do not. And I’ve really learned that money does not buy true happiness. Who will be with you on your dying day? It won’t be Ms. Money.

It helps to have some spirituality. I don’t know where I’d be without my faith. I had hot flashes for several years that were so bad I don’t know now how I got through them. I survived and I credit my higher power.

Jim, I love you so.
One terrific partner.

A good partner is worth gold. I know I said it is not about the money but a good partner is priceless. My husband Jim is my best friend. Enough said.

Do what you love. I really love giving people unconditional love. How do I do this? I coordinate their wedding days. I send them little messages. I tell them “I love you.” I volunteer for a program that feeds the poor and homeless. I write blogs for my religion that people actually read. It’s mind blowing.

Put guilt into perspective. OK, this is a big one. I carried around way too much guilt about dumb stuff for too long. Life really is too short for guilt. The better my relationship with God, the less guilt I have. Remember that post I wrote on perfection? I will never achieve perfection; only God is perfect. I just try to do my best every day and apologize when I tick someone off.

Less clutter is better. If you don’t use something for a year, chances are you don’t need it and someone else could use it. Make three bags and go through your stuff. One bag is for keeping, one is for trash, one is to give away. Do one room or one area at a time. Drive to Goodwill or Habitat for Humanity ReStore afterwards and donate the contents of the giveaway bag. Take the trash bag to the garbage before you change your mind. Take the keep bag and actually display or use those favorite things.

Family is everything. Who will show up when you really need them? Who’s there for you when you need someone to talk to? Maybe you have close friends that are really like family. Those people count as well. Nurture those relationships and keep them going.

There you have it. All the above is where I’m at right now. Thank you God for this age and this perspective. Bring on the next year. 🙂

Sunset 2-7-15

Join me on my graceful journey.

13 Replies to “Sunrise, Sunset”

  1. Another awesome post. Your points are very valid. The one about clutter sounds like “FlyLady”…do you subscribe to her? I do and I need to get bak on that “fly wagon”!
    Thank you for being a part of my life!

  2. Joanne, this is a poignant post, full of wisdom (especially about the guilt!), a wonderful picture of you lovely ladies together, and reference to my favorite song from FIDDLER ON THE ROOF.
    Well done, friend!

    1. I so love Fiddler on the Roof! I knew all the songs when I was young- I played the album over and over. A couple of years ago, the musical came to Pittsburgh and I went. It was wonderful. Thank you Marylin. xo

  3. Hi Joanne, some great thoughts to take with you into your sixties. I am pushing 65, when did that happen? , but I am young at heart and full of enthusiasm for life still. And I am so grateful for that. To remain enthusiastic is a wonderful gift. There is so much to do, to see, to enjoy, and as you get older you begin to realise that this really is it. Seize the day while you still can. Greetings from the UK.

  4. Wow, what an absolutely awesome post! Your points are spot on! I love all of them, and your thoughts and advice on each one. I found myself shaking my head “up and down” agreeing with you as I read each of them. When you get into the 70’s ( not to hurry you), you will even feel a greater sense of gratitude for the things the 60’s have brought to you! Thanks for such wonderful insight about life!

    1. You are an amazing woman. I cannot believe you are in your 70’s. You have done so much and continue to do much. God Bless You! And thank you for always encouraging me. It means the world. xo

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